Being a confident mother is the easiest way to balance it all and eliminate overwhelm. How, you ask? Because, when you are confident in your ability to make good choices, prioritize well and be productive you do not allow the stress of it all to overtake you.
When you are confident you understand the necessity to not take on more than you can bear and to take a break when needed.
My secret sauce to it all is that I’m confident in myself and what I do. This confident assurance allows me to not feel obligated to do more than what I am able to do. Part of the reason overwhelm creeps in is because we often committ to obligations we are unable to fulfill. If you can’t do it, don’t say you will. If you are unsure if you can do it, say that. It is okay to tell people “Give me some time to think about it” or “I can’t answer that right now”.
We live in such an on demand type of world until we feel as though we HAVE to give people what they want, when they want it. I must return this email, I must answer tweets, I must give the kids a snack, call my mom back, text my friend back. No. Give yourself a break. Allow yourself time to do tasks without the pressure of having to do them now. Because guess what? It can wait.
Being a mother, business owner, and friend, the to do list can get quite overwhelming, however I do as much as I can and I don’t feel bad about what I can’t do. Once I’ve reached my capacity, things get rescheduled and moved around as I see fit. Now this can be risky when you run a business and have clients and customers depending on you.
In this case you have to have people that keep you accountable. Assistants, business partners, and colleagues are all great for this. When you tell people your intentions and put dates on it, usually they will hold you accountable. This accountability comes with emails, texts, phone calls and visits that will question your status on the intentions you’ve set.
So be confident in your ability as a mom and do the best you can to prioritize, don’t accept more than you can handle and do your best to stay happy.
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