How to Encourage Your Toddler to Be More Independent

by Nakisha Wynn

It’s funny how one day we look up and our cute little chubby baby has turned full grown toddler. They start doing the cutest things, trying to say the cutest things and we even think their clingy ways are the cutest thing. But I think it’s important to encourage your toddler to be more independent. Here’s why.

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There will come a day when you really need to get something done and all your toddler wants to do is hang on to you like a little koala. I know because I have a little koala myself.

There will come a day when you realize that you are more than just a mom and you actually begin to want your life back. You know like actually putting on adult clothes to hang out with your girlfriends or having a hobby outside of your children’s crafts. One day you will find yourself wishing your little koala was just a little bit more independent.

Here are 3 quick tips to encourage your toddler to be more independent.

Encourage them verbally
One on the best ways to encourage your toddler to be more independent is by telling them. Using phrases like “you can do it”, “you are such a big boy”, “you are a great helper” makes them feel proud.

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Our toddlers just want our reassurance. They want to know that we notice their efforts and that its okay with us. Because honestly most times it’s us mothers who are hindering them from growing up with our own clingy issues, but I digress.
Encouraging them helps them feel more confident about being more independent and leads them to want to do it more.

Stop doing everything for them
Listen, the child will never learn to be responsible if you keep doing things for them. Do not walk behind them all day picking up their mess. No!

Allow your toddler to try things on their own and if and when they need help let them ask for it. I know it is faster if you just do it but I promise you will thank me later.

Give them responsibities
Usually, your toddler will have walked around all day playing with toys leaving a trail throughout the house. Give them a responsibility to clean their own mess.
Introduce them to where all their things go (labels are amazing for this) and have them put them away. Eventually, once you say it’s time to clean up they will begin to put things away on their own.

Implementing some of these suggestions will get your toddler more happy and independent and give you back a little more time.

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