Single and Pregnant with Twins? Here’s what you Should Know.

by Nakisha Wynn

My life changed the day I found out I was a single mom pregnant with twins. You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. I’m so grateful I had two single moms with twins by my side that would help me through this journey.

I hadn’t been feeling good for a few weeks and decided to go to the doctor to get checked out. If I’m being honest, I knew something was up, actually, I knew I was pregnant. I’d taken the home pregnancy test a few weeks prior but I was in complete denial.

I went to the appointment and surely I was pregnant. I was completely pissed because I had just ended my relationship and my son was only 6 months old. Then the unimaginable happened. I went in for my first sonogram and the technician told me it was twins! Tears immediately streamed down my face. I asked her if she was serious. I knew she was because I saw it for myself but I just had to ask. I was devastated.

Becoming a Single Mom of Twins

I had just become a single mom of twins so fast my head was spinning. I went from having two kids to having four in three seconds. How is this even happening? So many questions ran through my mind. The first thing I thought was “Who’s going to want a single mom of twins and two sons?” Honestly that felt like the hardest part to accept in the moment.

But more importantly I thought how am I going to take care of these babies by myself? How am I going to tell my children I’m a single mom pregnant with twins? Will I be able afford daycare? HOOOWW am I even a single mom pregnant with twins!! At this point I was completely overwhelmed. I live in a condo though. I drive a two door coupe. The questions, the confusion it all had me exhausted. I was so disappointed in myself and disappointed in the choices I had made to get to this point.

When I finally made it home I sat there on the couch crying. I cried for hours. I went to bed still in disbelief. But then something happened that morning. I woke up, looked at myself in the mirror and said, “You can make it!”, “If God brings you to it, he’ll bring you through it.” From that moment on, I never looked back.

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So you’re a single mom pregnant with twins, here’s what you need to know.

Everything is going to be okay. You can do this and you can do it WELL. Don’t let anybody persecute you for your choices. Know that you mad the right decision and never second guess yourself. You have to be confident in your ability to choose. Forgive yourself and move forward. Own your decisions, stand tall and handle your business.

You will be able to give your children the life they deserve. You will be able to complete your goals and you will still be the amazing woman you are destined to be. I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy. You will have some sleepless nights. You will have to make some sacrifices and you will have to work your butt off to make it work. But that’s okay. It will all be worth it.

Reach out to the people that support you and will be there for you. If you don’t have a support system that’s okay. That will come. You can build that support system along the journey.

READ: The Day I gave Birth to My Twins via C-section Alone

If you already have one, be prepared for that to change. You will be surprised at the people that get missing when life gets real. You will also be surprised at those that step up to support you when you most need it. Additionally, YOU be prepared to change. This experience will change who you are as a woman. That’s exactly what it should do.

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Accepting That Your a Single Parent of Twins

All in all, this can be done. Single moms with twins can thrive beyond their circumstances too. You don’t have to be afraid. You don’t have to second-guess your ability to make this work because you can do it. Keep the faith and stand strong. Being single is simply your current relationship status. That will change. All of your circumstances will change if you want them to. You get to decide whether you use this situation to hinder you or let it make you stronger. I pray you choose the latter. Being the single parent of twins shouldn’t stop you in anyway. Use it as a reason to be better and go harder.

10 comments

Rachael June 5, 2018 - 5:33 pm

This made me cry and smile at the same time. A single mother to twins myself I struggled to find someone that understood or knew exactly what I was going through. Thank you for this post, it has encouraged me. I hope I can be as successful as you one day.

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Nakisha Wynn June 18, 2018 - 1:00 pm

Awww thank you Rachel. It can be hard but it CAN be done. Sending you good vibes and wishing you much success on you journey.

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Whitney December 2, 2018 - 7:47 am

Just found out I’m pregnant with twins and it looks like I’ll be a single mom as well. I’m devastated but I know God has a plan for me and I’m trusting him completely.

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Nakisha Wynn December 6, 2018 - 4:21 pm

Know that you got this!!!! Life doesn’t always go as planned but we find a way to write a better story than we imagined. Your babies are going to be a blessing.

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Molly Perocier February 27, 2019 - 10:01 am

I am a single mother with two beautiful boys. I’m in the stage that soon one of my boys will come home first than the other. I don’t know if this will be easy but it makes me upset leaving my other baby behind. I used to look at my life as if it was ending when I found out I was having twins and taking care of them on my own, but God has a purpose. He does everything for a reason. He has hold my hand through the risk of my pregnancy and he will continue holding my hand every step of the way. Times will be hard but I will be strong and prepared for whatever gets thrown at me.

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Nakisha Wynn March 2, 2019 - 2:06 pm

Amen! God will never leave you nor forsake you. You will look back in a few years and laugh at how far you’ve come.

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Sarah August 23, 2019 - 6:43 pm

My significant other even though in my life may or may not be physically there for me and our twins. He’s in jail with no end in sight… I was beginning to feel an utter hopeless then I read this, I know God has a plan for me. I have family members that suggested adoption but I truly don’t think that’s the best option. I’m scared, alone and worried that I’m keeping them from having a better life. They’re due at the end of the year, he’s already missed 3 months of pregnancy, when I found out about the twins, I just found out the gender. It’s been extremely draining and stressful but I have faith, thank you. Whether I have to do this on my own or not, I feel like I can.

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Nakisha Wynn August 27, 2019 - 12:00 am

And you can! There are so many resources available if you need them. Ask for help and use your support system. This is not an impossible task. If I can do it, so can you. Many blessings to you mama.

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Amy September 21, 2019 - 7:07 pm

Hey i just found out im having twins last week i also have a four yr old girl me and her dad broke up and it just wont work even if we try our hardest plus he lives in holland and im back in ireland. Thank u so much for that beautiful read cheered me right up .

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Nakisha Wynn September 24, 2019 - 8:19 pm

Awwww thank you I’m so glad you liked it. Just know everything will work out just fine. Best wishes to you, your daughter and your new bundle of joy.

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