It took me almost 3 years to stop hiding from myself. I had been hiding behind the title of mother. I’d used it as an excuse not to share myself with the world. I figured if I didn’t share myself, that my insecurities wouldn’t show themselves.
Like the fact that I had lost my identity after the babies and I really had no clue who the heck I was anymore. Or the fact that I had not fully pursued my dreams yet, because I was scared. Scared to do this alone, of being judged, of failing, of succeeding; Scared to just do it scared!
But it turns out that abandoning me to be a mother didn’t work. It did the opposite of what I had hoped. The more I continued to allow motherhood to suppress me, the more resentful I became. I finally realized I needed to stop hiding, and show the world who I was and what I had to offer. I needed to pursue my goals to be a more effective mother. The more I began to do that, the happier I became. The better mother I became.
I’ve learned to take as much pride in bettering myself as I do in being an amazing mom. Stop hiding. I urge you to come from behind your children and tell people your name. Tell them who you are and what you have to offer. If you are not quite sure what that is anymore, take the time to figure it out.
Outside of your children, what do you enjoy?
What are your favorite hobbies?
What do you do in your free time?
Do you have any goals that you left unfinished?
Do you have any unfulfilled dreams you want to pursue?
Things can get very overwhelming being a single mom but you have to be sure to take care of you first. I know you love your children. I love mine too. But trust me they will be much happier when you are.